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Art & Science of Love

The following are a collection of upcoming Art & Science of Love Couple's Workshops that Smithey Counseling Services provides. To stay up-to-date on the latest changes and schedule of workshops, subscribe to our mailing list. 

COVID Update -- All In-Person events will follow social distancing guidelines as well as any local ordinances, including the recommendation of face coverings. If local statutes change and prevent a scheduled in-person event, or low attendance is projected the event will be held virtually on the same dates. See below for additional COVID Policies. 

LIVE In-Person Workshops:

May 22-23, 2021
August 21-22, 2021

Location: 
Holiday Inn Express
5302 Victory Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46203

$699 per couple
Register 30+ days before for $649

Include:
ASL Box Kit

 

Purchased Separately:
On-Demand Videos
Digital Tools

LIVE Online Workshops:

March 20-21, 2021
November 13-14, 2021

Location:
Your couch

$649 per couple
Register 30+ days before for $599

Includes:
On-Demand Videos
Digital Tools

Purchased Separately:
ASL Box Ki
t

 

View our On-Demand options here. 

Ask about discounts for ASL & ASL2 Bundles

Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples.

  • 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
  • For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
  • Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
  • Has produced positive results for 94% of those who attended

Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this,” you will take home a box set of cards, tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.

 

The Workshop Program

In a word: Science! This curriculum is developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It’s grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what marriage ought to be. 

No Public Discussion or Disclosure is Involved

Who will benefit from attending?

This workshop is designed for ALL couples in a committed relationship. Research shows that, on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of problems to get relationship help. If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair. No public discussion or disclosure is involved.  All work is done as a couple and Gottman trained therapists are available to support one-on-one during exercises.

What You'll Learn:

At the workshop, you’ll learn how to: foster respect, affection, and closeness; build and share a deeper connection with each other; keep conflict discussions calm, break through and resolve conflict gridlock; and strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.

Participants will be able to:

  • Learn to detect the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and how to diffuse them
  • Identify the relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that the relationship can draw upon in times of stress
  • Develop problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolution
  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship

 

What You'll Take Home:

In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive a box set (in-person) or digital tools (online), which contains:

  • 7 Card Decks
    • Love Map
    • Opportunity
    • Open-Ended Questions
    • Rituals of Connection
    • Salsa (Mild, Medium, Hot)
  • 2 Couples Workbooks
  • Repair Checklist
  • Aftermath of a Fight Booklet
  • Sound Relationship House Magnet

Workshop Schedule:

(Subject to Change)

Day 1:

  • 8:00 Registration
  • 8:30 Workshop Begins
  • 10-10:15 Morning Break 
  • 12:20-1:35 Lunch Break **
  • 3:10-3:25 Afternoon Break *
  • 4:50 End of Day

Day 2:

  • 8:30 Workshop Begins
  • 9:45-10:00 Morning Break *
  • 11:45-1:15 Lunch Break **
  • 3:15-3:30 Afternoon Break *
  • 4:50 End of Day

 

Light refreshments will be provided during morning and afternoon breaks. Lunch is on your own

Presenter Bio:

Dr. Adam Smithey is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Indiana’s only Certified Gottman Therapist. Since 2005, he has dedicated his career to helping to build, maintain, and repair lasting relationships. He specializes in Couples Weekend Workshops and Retreats.

Meet Dr. Adam

 

Discounts & Savings

Specials discounts and/or payment plans may be available for First Responders, Healthcare Workers, Military, K-12 Teachers, and Clergy Please email adam@smitheycounseling.com for more info. 

 

Additional Workshop Info:

We would like to advise that our couples workshop is presented as a seminar. It is meant to be psycho-educational and is not meant to be couples therapy. We do offer virtual and in-person couples therapy, consultations, and additional resources at Smithey Counseling Services.

While we believe that the content of this workshop is based on sound research and principles, there is no warranty, expressed or implied about the benefit of this workshop for your specific concerns.

Questions:

For any questions, please email adam@smitheycounseling.com. Please only send workshop-related questions. We are unable to respond to therapeutic questions via email.


Transfer/Cancellation Policy:

If cancellation is made on or before the Early Bird Registration deadline, a full refund minus a $75 processing fee will be given. If your cancellation occurs after the Early Registration deadline, your registration will be converted to a credit, good for a full year, that can be applied to future workshops.

 

Inclement Weather Policy:

All couple’s workshops and clinical trainings (“events”) hosted by SCS adhere to the following policy: Events will be cancelled due to inclement weather ONLY if the Venue where the event is being hosted is closed, if there is a government ordered travel ban, or if the presenters are prohibited by weather from being there. If the event is cancelled due to inclement weather, you may either a) request a full refund, or b) request your registration fee to be applied to a rescheduled date or to another SCS event of your choosing in the next 12-month period. Any travel expenses that may have been incurred cannot be refunded. If the event is held, but weather conditions or other factors prohibit your safe travel so you are unable to attend, your registration fee will be applied to another SCS event of your choosing in the next 12-month period. 


COVID-19 Policy:

All couple’s workshops and clinical trainings (“events”) hosted by SCS adhere to the following policy: Live In-Person events will follow social distancing guidelines as well as any local ordinances, including but not limited to the recommendation of face coverings. If local statutes change and prevent a scheduled in-person event, -or- low attendance is projected, the event will be held virtually on the same dates. Should an In-Person event be switched to an online event, you may either a) attend the online event, b) request a full refund, or c) request your registration be applied toward a future in-person or online event within the next 12 months. 

 

 

Frequently Asked Questions

 

How is this workshop different from your Seven Principles Program Workshop?

The Seven Principles Program is a workshop presented by a Seven Principles Leader (not necessarily a therapist/counselor) that focuses solely on the seven principles found through Dr. Gottman's research to enhance a relationship. This workshop expands upon the invaluable information found within his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

The Art & Science of Love Weekend Workshop is a 2-day workshop presented by a Certified Gottman Therapist that includes a greater depth of coverage on the seven principles, while also going into a wider array of Dr. Gottman's research and exercises as they apply to your relationship. The Art & Science of Love also offers a greater chance for a Certified Gottman Therapist to assist you personally when stuck during exercises. 

Self-disclosure is not required in either workshop. 

Will John & Julie Gottman personally be conducting the weekend couples workshop?

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are the presenters for the couples workshops in Seattle, WA. Dr. Adam Smithey is the presenter for smitheycounseling.com. He is a private Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who is a Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leader and Therapist bringing a decade of experience to the workshop as a presenter.

*Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders are Certified Gottman Therapists who have been specifically trained by The Gottman Institute to present couples workshops. All workshop leaders use The Art and Science of Love curriculum designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These workshops are offered independent of The Gottman Institute.

I've registered and submitted payment for the workshop. What now?

Once you have completed registration and provided an email address and phone number upon checkout, you will be contacted by our staff to complete the Registration Process. Typically you will be contacted via email within 24 hours of registration. Within that email, you will be requested to schedule a 10-minute phone call. During the Registration Phone Call, we will gather further information from you, answer any lingering questions you may have, and either confirm your registration or suggest other services that are appropriate to your situation.

Who attends the couples workshops?

Couples of all ages, incomes, races, nationalities, professions, religions, abilities, and orientations attend our workshops. Couples attend who already have a strong, healthy relationship, and couples attend to repair relationship damage and get back on track. Parents sometimes attend who have decided to end their relationship but want to do so in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their children, and receive skills to become healthy co-parents moving forward. We welcome all couples who want to work on making their relationship stronger.

Do all couples qualify to attend?

All couples that register must go through a Pre-Workshop Registration Phone Call and Questionnaire. This process is to ensure that the Art and Science of Love workshop will truly benefit each couple. In rare occasions, a registration is refunded in full when the Registration Phone Call determines that this workshop is contraindicated. 

Can we attend the workshop even if we aren't married?

Yes. All couples are welcome. This may in fact be the best time to work on and build upon your relationship!

Is this workshop appropriate for premarital couples?

Yes. We strongly encourage attending our workshop as premarital preparation.

Can I give the couples workshop as a gift to someone else?

Yes. Gift certificates are here

Can I come to the workshop alone if I can’t convince my partner to attend?

Sorry, no. Our workshops are specifically designed to be interactive and experiential for couples only.

How can I convince my partner to attend a workshop or go to counseling?

Each couple is different and we are unable to provide specific advice about how to convince your partner to attend a workshop or seek counseling. However, many individuals have found that a good place to start is by sharing some of the research and videos on the Gottman website with their partners. Dr. Gottman’s bestselling book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is also a great way to become acquainted with the research and the Gottman Method.

 I’d love to come to your workshop, but my partner is a private person and is not comfortable sharing in a group setting.

No problem. Couples sit as an audience during the lectures, but we provide lots of extra square footage for privacy while couples engage in the workshop exercises. In smaller groups (7 couples or fewer), Dr. Adam Smithey will be available to briefly work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. In larger groups, other Certified Gottman Therapists are available to work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. There is no group work, and no mandatory sharing.

Will we be left on our own or will we receive assistance?

The presenters are highly experienced Certified Gottman Therapists. In larger groups, we will call upon other Certified Gottman Therapists to assist during the exercises. These presenters/therapists are available to work one-on-one with you during the exercises. Couples are not required to use clinical help, but we strongly encourage using this resource while you have the opportunity.

 Are we appropriate for your workshop if we don’t have any really huge problems?

Yes. Couples who attend our workshop tend to fall into two categories: enhancement and repair. We applaud couples who are wise enough to attend the workshop for enhancement purposes. Our brains are more open to new learning when we are not stressed out, and our workshop is designed with plenty of humor and romance, so enhancement couples have a terrific time while learning. Feedback from both enhancement and repair couples indicates that the couples workshop is very beneficial.

 Would it make sense for us to attend your workshop if we are already separated or in the process of divorce?

Sometimes. While each situation is unique, we do have many couples attend the workshop who are separated or have begun divorce proceedings. These couples continue to report that the workshop was very helpful to them. We will discuss the specifics of your situation with you during the registration process to see if it is appropriate for you.

Should I do anything to prepare?

There are no prerequisites to attending a couples workshop. The workshop is self-contained and is appropriate even if you’ve never heard of Dr. John Gottman and his work.

Should we read The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work before attending?

The workshop is self-contained; no pre-reading is required. Some couples report that reading The Seven Principles enhanced their workshop experience by providing a foundation in the research concepts and applications. You can also attend one of our Seven Principles 1-Day Couples Workshops to gain some basic insights and psychoeducation.

Do you provide childcare?

We do not provide childcare options.

 Do we stay in a hotel during the weekend?

Yes, if you are coming from out of town. Our staff will provide hotel information for each venue. If you are local, you can certainly go home. However, we recommend you try to preserve your focus on your relationship throughout the entire weekend, if possible. Try not to go home to kids, jobs, neighbors, pets, all the daily distractions and stressors we face. Try to keep the weekend just for the two of you.