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Dr. Adam R Smithey, LMFT
Based upon Dr. John Gottman’s four decades of research with thousands of couples
Early Bird Registration ($100 off) ends 30 days before workshop (with discount code)
ASL Locations (unless noted otherwise)
* No special room rate for attendees *
5630 Flight School Drive
Indianapolis, IN 46221
Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples.
- 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
- For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
- Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
- Has produced positive results for 94% of those who attended
Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this,” you will take home a box set of cards, tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.
The Workshop Program
In a word: Science! This curriculum is developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It’s grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what marriage ought to be.
|No Public Discussion or Disclosure is Involved|
Who will benefit from attending?
This workshop is designed for ALL couples in a committed relationship. Research shows that, on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of problems to get relationship help. If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair. No public discussion or disclosure is involved. All work is done as a couple and Gottman trained therapists are available to support one-on-one during exercises.
What You'll Learn:
At the workshop, you’ll learn how to: foster respect, affection, and closeness; build and share a deeper connection with each other; keep conflict discussions calm, break through and resolve conflict gridlock; and strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.
Participants will be able to:
- Learn to detect the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and how to diffuse them
- Identify the relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
- Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
- Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
- Create an Emotional Bank Account that the relationship can draw upon in times of stress
- Develop problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolution
- Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship
What You'll Take Home:
In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive a box set, which contains:
(Subject to Change)
Light refreshments will be provided during morning and afternoon breaks. Lunch is on your own
Dr. Adam Smithey is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Indiana’s only Certified Gottman Therapist. Since 2005, he has dedicated his career to helping to build, maintain, and repair lasting relationships. He specializes in Couples Weekend Workshops and Retreats.
Meet Dr. Adam
Discounts & Savings
Save up to $100 using one of the discount codes below. Please note, only ONE code can be used per couple, per transaction.
EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT:
Example: For December 16th workshop, enter "DECEMBER-ASL" by November 16 to receive the Early Bird Discount.
SCS is proud to support our Active Duty Military & Veterans. Save 15% off your registration using promo code: HONOR
Mental Health Professionals:
A personal workshop experience is beneficial for your professional and personal toolkit, and will help you to better integrate Gottman interventions into your work with couples. If you are working in the mental health field as an associate licensed or fully licensed professional, you can save 15%off your workshop registration by using promo code: MENTAL. You will be asked to provide your license number for verification. Student/Interns can email firstname.lastname@example.org for discount options.
Molding future generations is no easy task. To show our appreciation, save 15%off your workshop registration by using promo code: TEACH
Members of the Clergy can save 15% off your workshop registration by using promo code: CLERGY
If you know four or more other couples that would like to attend a private Art & Science of Love Workshop, email email@example.com for group rates and personalized scheduling. Can’t make it to our location? Ask about scheduling a workshop in your town!
Weekend Retreat Discount:
Dr. Smithey offers Weekend Couples Retreats (individual therapy with one couple) where you complete 6+ months of counseling in 2-4 days. Each Retreat is tailored specifically to you and builds upon what you have learned in the Art & Science of Love Workshop. You can apply 50% of your workshop fee to the 2.5-day Intensive or 4-day Mini Marathon packages by booking a future Weekend Retreat (scheduled within 4 months of workshop). Must be booked within 30 days of the conclusion of the workshop. Please note that attendance to this workshop is not required to schedule a Retreat package. See here for more details. Email firstname.lastname@example.org for promo code.
Additional Workshop Info:
For any questions, please email email@example.com. Please only send workshop-related questions. We are unable to respond to therapeutic questions via email.
If cancellation is made on or before the Early Bird Registration deadline, a full refund minus a $75 processing fee will be given. If your cancellation occurs after the Early Registration deadline, your registration will be converted to a credit, good for a full year, that can be applied to future workshops.
Inclement Weather Policy:
All couple’s workshops and clinical trainings (“events”) hosted by SCS adhere to the following policy: Events will be cancelled due to inclement weather ONLY if the Venue where the event is being hosted is closed, if there is a government ordered travel ban, or if the presenters are prohibited by weather from being there. If the event is cancelled due to inclement weather, your registration fee will be applied to a possible rescheduled date or to another SCS event of your choosing in the next 12-month period. Any travel expenses that may have been incurred cannot be refunded. If the event is held, but weather conditions or other factors prohibit your safe travel so you are unable to attend, your registration fee will be applied to another SCS event of your choosing in the next 12-month period.
Frequently Asked Questions
How is this workshop different from your Seven Principles Program Workshop?
The Seven Principles Program is a workshop presented by a Seven Principles Leader (not necessarily a therapist/counselor) that focuses solely on the seven principles found through Dr. Gottman's research to enhance a relationship. This workshop expands upon the invaluable information found within his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
The Art & Science of Love Weekend Workshop is a 2-day workshop presented by a Certified Gottman Therapist that includes a greater depth of coverage on the seven principles, while also going into a wider array of Dr. Gottman's research and exercises as they apply to your relationship. The Art & Science of Love also offers a greater chance for a Certified Gottman Therapist to assist you personally when stuck during exercises.
Self-disclosure is not required in either workshop.
Will John & Julie Gottman personally be conducting the weekend couples workshop?
Drs. John and Julie Gottman are the presenters for the couples workshops in Seattle, WA. Dr. Adam Smithey is the presenter for smitheycounseling.com. He is a private Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who is a Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leader and Therapist bringing a decade of experience to the workshop as a presenter.
*Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders are Certified Gottman Therapists who have been specifically trained by The Gottman Institute to present couples workshops. All workshop leaders use The Art and Science of Love curriculum designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These workshops are offered independent of The Gottman Institute.
I've registered and submitted payment for the workshop. What now?
Once you have completed registration and provided an email address and phone number upon checkout, you will be contacted by our staff to complete the Registration Process. Typically you will be contacted via email within 24 hours of registration. Within that email, you will be requested to schedule a 10-minute phone call (to be completed within 48 hours of registration). During the Registration Phone Call, we will gather further information from you, answer any lingering questions you may have, and either confirm your registration or suggest other services that are appropriate to your situation.
What is your Refund Policy?
LIMITED SEATS! Events will sell out! Cancellation Policy: If cancellation is made on or before the Early Registration Cut-off Date, a full refund less $75 processing fee will be given. After the cut-off date, your registration will be converted to a credit to a future workshop within the next 12 months.
Who attends the couples workshops?
Couples of all ages, incomes, races, nationalities, professions, religions, abilities, and orientations attend our workshops. Couples attend who already have a strong, healthy relationship, and couples attend to repair relationship damage and get back on track. Parents sometimes attend who have decided to end their relationship but want to do so in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their children, and receive skills to become healthy co-parents moving forward. We welcome all couples who want to work on making their relationship stronger.
Do all couples qualify to attend?
All couples that register must go through a Pre-Workshop Registration Phone Call and Questionnaire. This process is to ensure that the Art and Science of Love workshop will truly benefit each couple. In rare occasions, a registration is refunded in full when the Registration Phone Call determines that this workshop is contraindicated.
Can we attend the workshop even if we aren't married?
Yes. All couples are welcome. This may in fact be the best time to work on and build upon your relationship!
Is this workshop appropriate for premarital couples?
Yes. We strongly encourage attending our workshop as premarital preparation.
Do you offer financial assistance?
Yes. We have standard discounts for couples involved with the military, education system, mental health field, or the clergy. We can also invoice you through PayPal to take advantage of their 6 month 0% interest payment plans. Email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Can I give the couples workshop as a gift to someone else?
Yes. Gift certificates are here.
Can I come to the workshop alone if I can’t convince my partner to attend?
Sorry, no. Our workshops are specifically designed to be interactive and experiential for couples only.
How can I convince my partner to attend a workshop or go to counseling?
Each couple is different and we are unable to provide specific advice about how to convince your partner to attend a workshop or seek counseling. However, many individuals have found that a good place to start is by sharing some of the research and videos on the Gottman website with their partners. Dr. Gottman’s bestselling book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is also a great way to become acquainted with the research and the Gottman Method.
I’d love to come to your workshop, but my partner is a private person and is not comfortable sharing in a group setting.
No problem. Couples sit as an audience during the lectures, but we provide lots of extra square footage for privacy while couples engage in the workshop exercises. In smaller groups (7 couples or fewer), Dr. Adam Smithey will be available to briefly work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. In larger groups, other Certified Gottman Therapists are available to work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. There is no group work, and no mandatory sharing.
Will we be left on our own or will we receive assistance?
The presenters are highly experienced Certified Gottman Therapists. In larger groups, we will call upon other Certified Gottman Therapists to assist during the exercises. These presenters/therapists are available to work one-on-one with you during the exercises. Couples are not required to use clinical help, but we strongly encourage using this resource while you have the opportunity.
How many couples attend the workshop?
The venue, location, weather, time of year and several other factors affect the size of each workshop. Dr. Adam Smithey's small group Art & Science of Love workshops are often limited to 7 couples. The large group workshops (offered periodically) can see anywhere from 15-50 couples attend.
Are we appropriate for your workshop if we don’t have any really huge problems?
Yes. Couples who attend our workshop tend to fall into two categories: enhancement and repair. We applaud couples who are wise enough to attend the workshop for enhancement purposes. Our brains are more open to new learning when we are not stressed out, and our workshop is designed with plenty of humor and romance, so enhancement couples have a terrific time while learning. Feedback from both enhancement and repair couples indicates that the couples workshop is very beneficial.
Would it make sense for us to attend your workshop if we are already separated or in the process of divorce?
Sometimes. While each situation is unique, we do have many couples attend the workshop who are separated or have begun divorce proceedings. These couples continue to report that the workshop was very helpful to them. We will discuss the specifics of your situation with you during the registration process to see if it is appropriate for you.
Should I do anything to prepare?
There are no prerequisites to attending a couples workshop. The workshop is self-contained and is appropriate even if you’ve never heard of Dr. John Gottman and his work.
Should we read The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work before attending?
The workshop is self-contained; no pre-reading is required. Some couples report that reading The Seven Principles enhanced their workshop experience by providing a foundation in the research concepts and applications. You can also attend one of our Seven Principles 1-Day Couples Workshops to gain some basic insights and psychoeducation.
Do you provide childcare?
We do not provide childcare options.
Do we stay in a hotel during the weekend?
Yes, if you are coming from out of town. Our staff will provide hotel information for each venue. If you are local, you can certainly go home. However, we recommend you try to preserve your focus on your relationship throughout the entire weekend, if possible. Try not to go home to kids, jobs, neighbors, pets, all the daily distractions and stressors we face. Try to keep the weekend just for the two of you.
I'm nervous in large groups (even without sharing). Do you provide other formats?
From time to time we offer different formats:
- Weeknight Classes - The same information as the 2-day workshop, only presented in a series of shorter weeknight classes. Sometimes presented on consecutive nights, though mostly presented one night per week.
- Large Group (10+ Couples) - A few times a year, Dr. Adam teams up with other Certified Gottman Therapists to provide the Art & Science of Love workshops to a greater number of couples.
- Semi-Private Workshop (7 couples or less) - Most Art & Science of Love workshops Dr. Adam presents are semi-private, limited to 7 couples, and in a public setting (hotel or similar accomodations).
- Semi-Private Retreat (5 couples or less) - Presented at Dr. Adam's private and secluded residence, this 2-day workshop is more intimate and offers a greater opportunity to connect personally with Dr. Adam.
- Private Retreat (only one couple) - Upon special requests, Dr. Adam offers private retreats where you are presented the same great information, just in a 1:1 format. This can be done in your home or at Dr. Adam's private residence. Art & Science of Love Private Retreats are educational and not considered therapeutic.
- Fly-Me Retreat (one couple or your own small group) - For additional costs, you have the option of flying Dr. Adam anywhere in the world to meet with you and provide you with a private retreat, in your home or at your favorite destination. Art & Science of Love Private Retreats are educational and not considered therapeutic.
- Contact Dr. Adam for more information and pricing for these special formats.